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seanan_mcguire...or at least, dealing with person with OCD.
It's no secret around here that I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder; I manage it on a daily basis, and I do a pretty good job. It's why I can accomplish as much as I do, given how little time I have. But it does mean that some things are non-negotiable for me, even as I politely tell people that they don't have to do them.
One of those things is responding to comments.
Sometimes, when I get overwhelmed, kind and concerned and loving people try to grant me comment amnesty. "You don't have to answer this." BUT I DO. I answer comments because I have to answer comments, or I literally cannot forget that I have left them unanswered. It may take me a long time. I may answer so far in the future that you've forgotten commenting. But unless I was the one who said "comment amnesty" (and sometimes not even then), I can't leave the majority of comments unacknowledged.
(This came about, ironically, because someone got very very very angry at me for not answering comments, and left me with a terror of being screamed at again.)
So please, don't tell me I don't have to answer you. That will just stress me out more, and move answering your comment to tell you that I do so have to answer higher up my priority list.
This has been another day of Seanan, living with OCD. Have a cookie.
ETA: Because I apparently wasn't clear: I love comments. I enjoy answering them. What stresses me out is other people trying to declare comment amnesty on my behalf. I can't process that, and so it just makes me unaccountably tense and unpleasant. So please, comment as normal. Just don't try to tell me I don't have to answer you, 'cause really, I do.
It's no secret around here that I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder; I manage it on a daily basis, and I do a pretty good job. It's why I can accomplish as much as I do, given how little time I have. But it does mean that some things are non-negotiable for me, even as I politely tell people that they don't have to do them.
One of those things is responding to comments.
Sometimes, when I get overwhelmed, kind and concerned and loving people try to grant me comment amnesty. "You don't have to answer this." BUT I DO. I answer comments because I have to answer comments, or I literally cannot forget that I have left them unanswered. It may take me a long time. I may answer so far in the future that you've forgotten commenting. But unless I was the one who said "comment amnesty" (and sometimes not even then), I can't leave the majority of comments unacknowledged.
(This came about, ironically, because someone got very very very angry at me for not answering comments, and left me with a terror of being screamed at again.)
So please, don't tell me I don't have to answer you. That will just stress me out more, and move answering your comment to tell you that I do so have to answer higher up my priority list.
This has been another day of Seanan, living with OCD. Have a cookie.
ETA: Because I apparently wasn't clear: I love comments. I enjoy answering them. What stresses me out is other people trying to declare comment amnesty on my behalf. I can't process that, and so it just makes me unaccountably tense and unpleasant. So please, comment as normal. Just don't try to tell me I don't have to answer you, 'cause really, I do.
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Date: 2012-03-14 03:32 pm (UTC)*sends zen hugs*
Living with a condition is never fun. I struggle with my ADHD, and one of my coping mechanisms is music. I check my bag for my MP3 player before I verify that I have my wallet, keys and phone.
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Date: 2012-03-14 03:41 pm (UTC)I was just going to tell her the PI thing too!
Yay for Pi/Pie!
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Date: 2012-03-14 03:58 pm (UTC)Thanks for the cookie, would you like a cup of tea?
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Date: 2012-03-14 04:10 pm (UTC)And we'll see you on Saturday! I'm supporting Caitlin Kittredge at Borderlands at three, but we'll definitely hang around for your launch later. Yay...!
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Date: 2012-03-14 05:03 pm (UTC)oooh, I hope they have chocolate chips in them! OCD gallops in my family, we all have it to some extent. Its frustrating at times because you know that you have to let it run its course, because if you interupt it, it disrupts their entire day. My sister has it the worst, so I have learned how to manange my frustration with it. In turn that has let me deal with my own manifestations of it. But what gets me is that my sister goes off on how her daughters OCD gets in the way of getting things done, and I just give her the Look and say, Apple, Tree!
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Date: 2012-03-14 05:37 pm (UTC)See you Saturday?
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Date: 2012-03-14 06:03 pm (UTC)Yay, comments. I enjoy interacting with you, but I don't want to be a cause of stress. It sounds like I'm not, so that's good.
Happy Wednesday! Happy Pi!
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Date: 2012-03-14 06:06 pm (UTC)HAPPY PI DAY!!!!!
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Date: 2012-03-14 06:26 pm (UTC)I think.
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Date: 2012-03-20 03:15 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-03-14 06:34 pm (UTC)Which last reminds me - the Celtic sìthe aversion to being thanked - I was thinking the other day if it might have something to do with godhood and the fey not being worshipped any longer. I was thinking, you see, that in Scottish Gaelic there's Buidheachas do Dhia (Thanks be to God) but human to human, it was Gun robh math agaibh (That was good of you) historically or currently Tapadh leibh - which is usually translated as "thank you" but actually means something closer to "health to you". (There's also Mòran taing, but that's straight-up borrowing from English.)
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Date: 2012-03-20 03:15 pm (UTC)And you're very welcome.
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Date: 2012-03-14 07:36 pm (UTC)I mean, I'd be an ass to do such a thing, and I'm not going to be an ass, in that particular way, at this time. But the fact that the question lies at the intersection of psychology, security hacking, and being a smart-aleck means I pretty much *have to ask*. (Doing the experiment would in some ways be better, except for that 'being an ass' part.)
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Date: 2012-03-14 07:51 pm (UTC)I call you a troll and ban you from my journal, if they're all different, in response to #1. I delete #2 through #100.
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Date: 2012-03-14 08:34 pm (UTC)I'd actually thought you just knew everyone you answered the few times I read comments instead of just the post - I never actually scrolled all the way through - so I never actually made the "I love your books and your music and your stories and I think you're awesome" post that always occurred to me whenever I read or listened to something of yours. But I do think you're awesome, and I hope you have a lovely spring, devoid of assholes and the unpleasant types of stress. And thank you for the cookie.
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Date: 2012-03-20 03:17 pm (UTC)Welcome, and you're very welcome to more cookies.
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Date: 2012-03-14 08:55 pm (UTC)Here, have my cat on drugs. *points to icon* :P
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Date: 2012-03-14 11:23 pm (UTC)BTW, loved the story in "The Modern Fae's Guide to Surviving Humanity" -- it answers soooooo many questions. I read it in the store and had to buy the book, since I wanted to show it to lots of people. :-)
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Date: 2012-03-20 03:18 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-03-14 11:34 pm (UTC)So, total understanding.
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Date: 2012-03-14 11:44 pm (UTC)The cats say hi.
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Date: 2012-03-14 11:57 pm (UTC)I'm used to saying it when expressing sympathy or condolences or whatever, knowing someone is under a lot of stress, and what it means from me is "I do not need you to stress yourself further by answering me". But I will try very hard to remember not to say that to you.
(And yeah, managing one's wiring issues gets... interesting. Coping techniques, we can haz?)
And thank you for the cookie!
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Date: 2012-03-20 04:10 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2012-03-15 01:10 am (UTC)I have Asperger's, I can empathize with the notion of "Yes, it would actually take more effort for me to avoid doing this thing than I expend doing it."
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