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seanan_mcguire ([personal profile] seanan_mcguire) wrote2014-01-12 01:00 pm

There are lines. Please stop crossing them.

When I posted about depression, I said that I was giving myself comment amnesty; I said that I might not (probably would not) read the comments.

Since then, people have contacted me via email (when they had it), via my old email (which I rarely check), via my contact form, via Facebook, and via my Tumblr, to give me their phone numbers, to tell me not to hurt myself (which I did not threaten to do), to provide crisis hotlines, to make suggestions about medication (which I did not solicit), and in one case, to threaten to report me to the police as a suicide risk if I did not update my blog immediately to show that I was still alive.

Please. Stop. "Comment amnesty" did not mean "work harder to make sure that your words, your well wishes, your specific need to engage with my depression will be heard." I try to keep open dialogs on this blog, and I usually appreciate communication, but right now, this contact is intrusive, and upsetting, and seems to prioritize the needs of the contacting person above mine. Please. Stop.

This is why I do not talk when I am sad.
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[personal profile] kyrielle 2014-01-12 10:01 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. Also, wtf. I mean, you were very clear that you had active coping strategies in place. And that you wanted to be able to read or not-read replies as you chose. Holy not honoring boundaries. :(

[identity profile] seanan-mcguire.livejournal.com 2014-01-12 11:11 pm (UTC)(link)
Seriously.