Why do little girls (and teenagers, and young women, and not so young women) spend so much time and energy fretting and dreaming and fervently planning a less-than-24-hour-period?
Because that's what we're taught we're supposed to aspire to: being a bride. It's shoved down our throats starting at a very early age that getting married is the most important goal in our lives. Everything else is second to it. We, as women, need to have a man for our existence to be validated. And let's not forget that the floofy white dress, the lacy veil, the scads of flowers everywhere,...the whole (very expensive) shebang is the key to our future happiness. You're being married! You're happyhappyhappy! Share it with the whole world in a blowout shindig! So what if you go into debt? You're never going to get married again, so why be frugal and sensible? [/misogynistic crap and marketing hype] Life after marriage is idealized to the point of having no resemblance to reality because reality, as you pointed out, isn't pretty.
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Date: 2010-12-29 12:27 am (UTC)Because that's what we're taught we're supposed to aspire to: being a bride. It's shoved down our throats starting at a very early age that getting married is the most important goal in our lives. Everything else is second to it. We, as women, need to have a man for our existence to be validated. And let's not forget that the floofy white dress, the lacy veil, the scads of flowers everywhere,...the whole (very expensive) shebang is the key to our future happiness. You're being married! You're happyhappyhappy! Share it with the whole world in a blowout shindig! So what if you go into debt? You're never going to get married again, so why be frugal and sensible? [/misogynistic crap and marketing hype] Life after marriage is idealized to the point of having no resemblance to reality because reality, as you pointed out, isn't pretty.